Washington legislators voted in favor of legalizing marriage equality this week, and Governor Christine Gregoire is expected to sign the bill into law shortly. Thus in just over 90 days the Evergreen State would become the seventh to grant marriage licenses to members of the LGBT community.
I really have not seen many posts about this on either Facebook or Twitter, so either people are waiting until it becomes law in Washington or they are waiting until it becomes law in America. Regardless, that last one is not going to occur for many years, so I recommend celebrating any victory as it comes along.
In case anyone is confused or not excited by the sentences prior, I recommend watching this passionate speech by Rep. Maureen Walsh. Not only do Walsh's mixed emotions on the issue prove just how divisive it can be, but how simple this legal dilemma is when stripped of personal opinion or duty to cultural values.
Next month, television networks will reveal which pilots they picked up to series and which existing shows are getting cancelled. To those unfamiliar, a pilot is a trial episode presented to potential networks; sometimes they are picked up to series, other times they are retooled, but most, regardless of their quality, never get past the pilot process. For a television fan like myself, those first few weeks of May are both exiting and depressing.
Pixar Studios has posted an "It Gets Better" video. While it joins the growing list of "celebrity" videos expressing the same message, this one seems to have genuine heart. Those interviewed are average people who happen to work for a large company, and are using this to reach out to their audience in a time of need. None of them are separated by their status within the company, and they appear to have no alternative motives for speaking. Overall, I think Pixar did a good job of putting this morality issue in perspective. Plus, it was nice to see Pixar's message of hope coming from real life lips for once.
Why is it that being single is such a frowned upon life choice? I swear there are more negative connotations with being single, than there are being in a loveless marriage or dare I say an abusive relationship.
I think part of this stems back to the basic survival of humans. Getting married forced humans to have sex, which greatly increased the likelihood of children, which increased the chances of their societies survival.
However, in 2010 this desire is no longer mandatory. With billions of people around the world, not every single person needs to have a kid; meaning not every single person needs to get married. Plus, even if someone did not get married, they could always adopt children or be artificially inseminated.
So then what is still forcing this negative stigmatism towards being single? Aside from the fear of dying alone in your apartment, I think it has to do with our culture's obsession with love. It seems almost every book, movie, song or poem has to do with love. Perhaps not with an actual individual, and more with an object or an abstract idea, but we as humans seem to love just about everything.
It seems that most characters are trying to figure out love; some succeed, others do not. Yet all are somehow living their lives in love with something. Those who don't love have the story centered around their inability to function as a regular human. But if someone is single, there is the general notion they are lacking in love. Without this feeling, somehow we think they are lacking in life.
Love is a messy emotion on a two way street. Since both parties need to love in order for the bond to truly exist, feelings usually get hurt at some point. What is so wrong with not wanting to get hurt? Or being hurt too many times that you just give up trying? Perhaps my youth has created a bias, but I guess only time will tell. In the meantime, I would like to see more positive media about being single.